Protest Account Deletion

[EthelTheGreat]

Please delete my account. I’m unhappy with the protection of another chatter who has continually been racist, predatory and generally creepy. I tried blocking but the omnipresent arse still manages to dominate the conversation with other chatters. This is where my line is.
Thanks for the laughs folks. This is my line x

 

[Liamz1888]

You will miss the Christmas party xx

 

[Muppz]

Please delete my account. I’m unhappy with the protection of another chatter who has continually been racist, predatory and generally creepy. I tried blocking but the omnipresent arse still manages to dominate the conversation with other chatters. This is where my line is.
Thanks for the laughs folks. This is my line x

Nooooooooooooo

 

[RatCatcher]

Please delete my account. I’m unhappy with the protection of another chatter who has continually been racist, predatory and generally creepy. I tried blocking but the omnipresent arse still manages to dominate the conversation with other chatters. This is where my line is.
Thanks for the laughs folks. This is my line x

Ethel please don't do this. You are alovely person and highly regarded by so many. Talk to some of us that you know befoee going through with this.

 

[Flower58]

Dear Ethel
Before you go, please tell me who has been so racist, predatory an creepy to make you feel this way? I will then start taking bets on all the racist and creepy predators, and I hope to make myself a small fortune!
Seriously tho, some days are worse than others for seeing the reality of this 'world' we call chat. Come back, ignore what you cant change, as many chatters as necessary, you will be missed if you leave xxxxx

 

[Shak]

Oh Ethel! ..
You'd be missed so much and it would be a big lose for chat if you decided to go. Please message me and have a chat before you decide. I'll support anyway I can. In a Mod or a friend capacity. Xx

 

[Ash710]

Please delete my account. I’m unhappy with the protection of another chatter who has continually been racist, predatory and generally creepy. I tried blocking but the omnipresent arse still manages to dominate the conversation with other chatters. This is where my line is.
Thanks for the laughs folks. This is my line x

 

[Metalred]

Ethel im gutted you are one of the nicest chatters and he is so not worth it. I agree the protection he is getting is awful when so many just wanna be left alone. I wish you would reconsider and stay. Love and hugs xxxxxx

 

[EthelTheGreat]

Thank you for the lovely comments and support folks. I did actually process this decision over a few days. Chat has always been full of creepy feckers along with some really lovely people; just like the real world. I usually just block and move on. This week saw a chatter with multiple accounts being given a name change by admin. Lots of people were outraged. Why was it allowed?
I decided not to argue the point in main as I watched others do it and he threatened with a ban. Again why?
So yesterday afternoon I had a cup of tea and considered my options. I do consider this person to have the potential to be dangerous. Do I just press ignore and continue to use a chat site that supports him? Does that make me complicit?
I totally agree with you Flower. We ignore the bad and focus on the positive relationships in chat but after two days of making light around a situation I found entirely questionable I decided the only positive action I could take was to leave. I have no other power here.
I’ll check my account again over the next week and answer any messages people send as long as my account stays open. Much love x

 

[elwoodbluz1966]

Let's clear this up once and for all.

No chatter needs admin permission or help to create a new screen name. We DO NOT do it for them. All chatters can do it.

NO chatter is 'protected' - everyone has to abide by the site rules and TOU they agreed to when logging onto the site.

And finally, the site provides the option to report, with evidence any breaches of the rules. And it also provides an ignore option.

 

[EthelTheGreat]

So admin at no point change a chat name for a chatter? I was in the room when it happened Elwood, (although it wasn’t you).
It was an admin who hadn’t been in for a while and no doubt was unfamiliar with the chatter in question, although she did acknowledge there were multiple accounts so was struggling to find the main one to change.
I agree the site rules are what they are. I haven’t asked you to change them, only delete my account because I’m unhappy with their execution.

 

[elwoodbluz1966]

I didn't say that. You know they can. I changed your screen name for you a long time ago. I am saying that chatters do not need us to create a new screen name. Then may I suggest that you private message the admin to discuss this rather than consider leaving ? I can't become involved in another admins activity, it would be discourteous and undermining.

 

[sue28scotland]

oh Ethel that was so sudden after speaking with you about the situation
i wish you had told me your intentions
if you do come back once more please try and make contact with me
i need to get the book to you in some way
lots of love
sue in Scotland

 

[Liamz1888]

You will miss the Christmas party xx

Decided to add I will also leave it Ethel isn’t fully supported

 

[Dollydimples]

This is totally unacceptable Ethster, we need to talk. He is one bad penny in a jar of gold sovereigns (ish) xx

 

[cantona]

Ethel come back heres some kisses XXX

 

[Fizzz]

You will miss the Christmas party xx

What party ??? How come i not know bout this ...

 

[Fizzz]

Please delete my account. I’m unhappy with the protection of another chatter who has continually been racist, predatory and generally creepy. I tried blocking but the omnipresent arse still manages to dominate the conversation with other chatters. This is where my line is.
Thanks for the laughs folks. This is my line x

Wtf ? Your greatness... what have I missed ?? I know i will miss you if you go , so cmon gurl..stiff upper lip and all that, stick 2 fingers up to the moron who pissed you off ,whoever they are ... and stay with the nice people on ere, and theres far many more of those that outweigh the nobheads. Xxxx

 

[Imalittleteapot]

It's perfectly fine to name me rather than refer to me as “an admin who hadn’t been in for a while and no doubt was unfamiliar with the chatter in question.” I was absent due to some health issues, which are private to me, but I am, and always have been, very aware of and familiar with the chatter.

I'm genuinely surprised that simply changing a chatter's name has caused all this upheaval. I have changed many names on this site when requested, just as I delete accounts when asked to do so. It's a service we, as administrators, are expected to provide. Batman sticks out like a sore thumb, so it was pretty obvious who it was.

Many chatters have accounts running into double figures. Why? I honestly don't know. Should that be against the rules? Perhaps, but at present, it isn't.

As for the suggestion that I protect him or allow him to break the rules, that's simply not true and, to be honest, is a very unfair accusation but totally understandable now I realise that im being offered up as the scapegoat.

I have personally actioned him on numerous occasions for making homophobic or racist comments, and when he has gone too far, I have banned him.

That said, would you like any of your male family members to be called a sex pest, utterly disgusting, a predator or a pervert? Because I certainly wouldn't. There is a difference between challenging someone's behaviour and resorting to personal abuse, and I don't think the latter helps anyone. If you have any proof of these things I would absolutely deal with them in the way they should be dealt with.

I realise that blocking or ignoring someone isn't a fix-all solution, but it is a good starting point. It gives us the opportunity to intervene and moderate situations properly, rather than allowing things to escalate.

Hurling abuse at him really isn't helpful, nor does it make the situation any easier for those of us trying to moderate the site fairly and thats something I have always been.

I am simply trying to do my job as an administrator, apply the rules consistently and treat everyone fairly.

 

[jefffs]

Hello Ethel, please dont leave , if you do you`re lose that £50 I owe you for the reception that was cancelled, please dont leave becouse of another chatter, you`re better than then xxx