Signs your partner is having an affair

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The clues I had:

1) personality change
2) unwilling to leave their phone unguarded or locked
3) stopping what they were doing when you walk into the room
4) changing the screen
5) unexplained absences or going out more than they use to
6) further distancing from you or conversly more attention to compensate

If you are asking this question than you already suspect. Do not confront unless you know the answer. Most will lie and try and make you feel you are the crazy one. Look for proof. I hope you are wrong.

You can save your marriage if you so desire. Never forget if your partner is having an affair you have choices as well. You could use Plan A/Plan B. Plan A is where you woo your partner by using their love language. Then it it gets to the point where you risk loosing all love for your partner then stop all contact. It protects what is left of your love but also gives you time to heal and makes the other person meet all of your partner's needs. It takes the mystique out of their relationship. Ultimatly I know it is not good news but if the person leaves you for the other remember when the mistress becomes the wife there is a job vacancy.
 
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Cat100 said:
The clues I had:

1) personality change
2) unwilling to leave their phone unguarded or locked
3) stopping what they were doing when you walk into the room
4) changing the screen
5) unexplained absences or going out more than they use to
6) further distancing from you or conversly more attention to compensate

If you are asking this question than you already suspect. Do not confront unless you know the answer. Most will lie and try and make you feel you are the crazy one. Look for proof. I hope you are wrong.

You can save your marriage if you so desire. Never forget if your partner is having an affair you have choices as well. You could use Plan A/Plan B. Plan A is where you woo your partner by using their love language. Then it it gets to the point where you risk loosing all love for your partner then stop all contact. It protects what is left of your love but also gives you time to heal and makes the other person meet all of your partner's needs. It takes the mystique out of their relationship. Ultimatly I know it is not good news but if the person leaves you for the other remember when the mistress becomes the wife there is a job vacancy.
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The worst thing you can do is put up with it or as a bloke try and fix it. Waste of time, all that happens is that you end up permanently looking for signs and then you start irrationally making up scenarios in your head that either have or havent happened, either way, theres nothing you can do about it. You can make all the grand gestures in the world, it just comes across as desperate or weird and eventually you end up imploding, all for what? someone whos already lost all respect or love for you anyway. And like ive said earlier, if someones words are different to their actions, i often believe their actions as opposed to their words. Ive seen people reel out grand verbal declarations to their partners or even those they are trying to woo when theyve been consistently fucking around behind their backs with a variety of people. Plan A is a waste of time, ALWAYS have a plan B or C that doesnt involve anything but putting yourself and your goals first. Refuse to be gaslighted or used as an option while they other person is preparing themselves to monkeybranch to the next person.
 
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They have a bath, do their hair, brush their teeth, etc, slap on the Old Spice, and put on their best clobber.



Just to take the wheelie bin out.
 
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He buys a big dog to (apparently) improve his fitness, because he has to take it for two long walks a day and is absolutely sure to shed the pounds on hours long walks, every morning and evening. However, while he's getting thinner, the dog is mysteriously getting fatter and when you happen to take the dog for its walk, it gets off its lead and heads straight towards her address.
 
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CrazyCatLady said:
He buys a big dog to (apparently) improve his fitness, because he has to take it for two long walks a day and is absolutely sure to shed the pounds on hours long walks, every morning and evening. However, while he's getting thinner, the dog is mysteriously getting fatter and when you happen to take the dog for its walk, it gets off its lead and heads straight towards her address.
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offer to make his dinner one night, a lovely dog meat an potato pie, clean the toilet with his toothbrush....any more advice feel free to ask :)
 
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Tinkerbelle said:
offer to make his dinner one night, a lovely dog meat an potato pie, clean the toilet with his toothbrush....any more advice feel free to ask :)
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Thank you, much appreciated but just letting you know- that wasn't my experience. I was just throwing it out there.

I don't do relationships (well, stable ones, anyway!), but back when I did, I was dating this guy for a few months, when I found a girl's number in his pocket (this was wa-ay back when phones were still connected to a cord) and I found out from his football mates that he had copped off on a night out with them.
Anyway, I phoned her- told her he had a girlf and made a few threats. Then, I got all the clothes he had at my house and rubbed freshly cut chilli's in the seams. Didn't let on that I knew and gleefully watched him get dressed...and then scream his head off at the sudden burning sensation he was getting around his groin area.

We patched things up. He went on to sleep with my best friend and subsequently, we broke up.

That was 26 years ago. He's bald now and looks like a dead sparrow. I have a full head of hair and don't look like a dead sparrow, so I'm at peace with the experience now.
 
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CrazyCatLady said:
Thank you, much appreciated but just letting you know- that wasn't my experience. I was just throwing it out there.

I don't do relationships (well, stable ones, anyway!), but back when I did, I was dating this guy for a few months, when I found a girl's number in his pocket (this was wa-ay back when phones were still connected to a cord) and I found out from his football mates that he had copped off on a night out with them.
Anyway, I phoned her- told her he had a girlf and made a few threats. Then, I got all the clothes he had at my house and rubbed freshly cut chilli's in the seams. Didn't let on that I knew and gleefully watched him get dressed...and then scream his head off at the sudden burning sensation he was getting around his groin area.

We patched things up. He went on to sleep with my best friend and subsequently, we broke up.

That was 26 years ago. He's bald now and looks like a dead sparrow. I have a full head of hair and don't look like a dead sparrow, so I'm at peace with the experience now.
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pmsfl, that actually made me chuckle
 
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Tinkerbelle said:
pmsfl, that actually made me chuckle
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Good. Glad to make you smile ;)
I have to point out though, it is all true (unfortunately). I was a right psycho back in the day and had a weakness for Casanova's, which inevitably ended up in heartache and restraining orders.
 
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If have a girlfriend, why not tell other girl that?
 
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