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As there is habitually no action taken against habitual goaders in the chat rooms. When someone reacts directly and gets banned it confirms the underlying attitude of hypocrisy. I shall take the term of my ban to decide whether I can be bothered to return to chat or not.
 

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During my time in chat i have been subject to continual slurs, regular unjustified homophobic insinuations and comments from numerous ignorant bigots of which almost none have been reprimanded or sanctioned for their actions in non compliance with the site rules.
I accept my ban for the comment made as it was plainly offensive to the woke narcissist to whom it was made.
I would like it to be officially recorded and acted upon that for any CD or trans person to be referred to as "IT" by other members is deeply offensive and dehumanising, and should be actioned upon as an immediate ban worthy infringement of the site rules for the perpetrator.
Should I decide not to return to chat I would like to thank and apologise to my wonderful friends on the site. I am not a hypocrite and would like to see, along with other genuine chatters that there is a strict adherence to site rules for ALL members and that those who flout the rules are dealt with accordingly.
 

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During my time in chat i have been subject to continual slurs, regular unjustified homophobic insinuations and comments from numerous ignorant bigots of which almost none have been reprimanded or sanctioned for their actions in non compliance with the site rules.
I accept my ban for the comment made as it was plainly offensive to the woke narcissist to whom it was made.
I would like it to be officially recorded and acted upon that for any CD or trans person to be referred to as "IT" by other members is deeply offensive and dehumanising, and should be actioned upon as an immediate ban worthy infringement of the site rules for the perpetrator.
Should I decide not to return to chat I would like to thank and apologise to my wonderful friends on the site. I am not a hypocrite and would like to see, along with other genuine chatters that there is a strict adherence to site rules for ALL members and that those who flout the rules are dealt with accordingly.
cant stop people using the word it has it is redic we have a freedom of spech stick to the lgtb group
 

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During my time in chat i have been subject to continual slurs, regular unjustified homophobic insinuations and comments from numerous ignorant bigots of which almost none have been reprimanded or sanctioned for their actions in non compliance with the site rules.
I accept my ban for the comment made as it was plainly offensive to the woke narcissist to whom it was made.
I would like it to be officially recorded and acted upon that for any CD or trans person to be referred to as "IT" by other members is deeply offensive and dehumanising, and should be actioned upon as an immediate ban worthy infringement of the site rules for the perpetrator.
Should I decide not to return to chat I would like to thank and apologise to my wonderful friends on the site. I am not a hypocrite and would like to see, along with other genuine chatters that there is a strict adherence to site rules for ALL members and that those who flout the rules are dealt with accordingly.
There is no exceptions when it comes to the site rules. Every report is taken on its merit and context. We do not allow homophobia or transphobia. We need it to be reported with evidence though. And to claim we take no action is incorrect. When a chatter is warned, only they see that warning, nobody else. We also don't like to see constant goading and harassment of other chatters. The ignore option is there for a reason and is not used nearly enough. There is a culture of not either ignoring or blocking, because some people prefer the arguing and drama. We will not moderate drama unless it causes room disruption.
 

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As there is habitually no action taken against habitual goaders in the chat rooms. When someone reacts directly and gets banned it confirms the underlying attitude of hypocrisy. I shall take the term of my ban to decide whether I can be bothered to return to chat or not.
Ppl often mock what they don't understand which shows there ignorance. Ppl should be more accepting in my view but they're not. Those sort of ppl do it for the attention as for maybe not returning don't give them the satisfaction stand ur ground girl you have the right to be whoever you want to be
 

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There is no exceptions when it comes to the site rules. Every report is taken on its merit and context. We do not allow homophobia or transphobia. We need it to be reported with evidence though. And to claim we take no action is incorrect. When a chatter is warned, only they see that warning, nobody else. We also don't like to see constant goading and harassment of other chatters. The ignore option is there for a reason and is not used nearly enough. There is a culture of not either ignoring or blocking, because some people prefer the arguing and drama. We will not moderate drama unless it causes room disruption.

Sorry but I must disagree with the statement above. I use the ignore/ block option, but leave message notifications on. My screen is 75% full with message from ignored user notifications. This site policy of just ignore the undesirables is avoiding the issue not tackling the root of the problem. Many genuine chatters have left the site because the undesirables appear to have free rein to goad and be abusive without consequence. The number of genuine chatters the site loses far outweighs keeping the undesirables albeit ignored by the majority.
I was a mod for many years on another platform and we had a policy of culling and banning the troublemakers. That encouraged more genuine chatters to join and stay on the site as admin demonstrated a willingness to cull the troublemakers and ensure a pleasant environment for the genuine members.
This has nothing to do with the fact that I’m a CD. Abusive and/or offensive behaviour towards any member irrespective of sexual orientation, race, belief, culture, sex or nationality should not be tolerated under any circumstances.
Until a more rigid policy is implemented here numbers will continue to dwindle until there are only the undesirables left.
 

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Abusive and/or offensive behaviour towards any member irrespective of sexual orientation, race, belief, culture, sex or nationality should not be tolerated under any circumstances.
Until a more rigid policy is implemented here numbers will continue to dwindle until there are only the undesirables left.
A tad ironic coming from a chatter who I've witnessed ridicule CDFiona.

Like all of us, you are just as guilty of hypocrisy.
 

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Sorry but I must disagree with the statement above. I use the ignore/ block option, but leave message notifications on. My screen is 75% full with message from ignored user notifications. This site policy of just ignore the undesirables is avoiding the issue not tackling the root of the problem. Many genuine chatters have left the site because the undesirables appear to have free rein to goad and be abusive without consequence. The number of genuine chatters the site loses far outweighs keeping the undesirables albeit ignored by the majority.
I was a mod for many years on another platform and we had a policy of culling and banning the troublemakers. That encouraged more genuine chatters to join and stay on the site as admin demonstrated a willingness to cull the troublemakers and ensure a pleasant environment for the genuine members.
This has nothing to do with the fact that I’m a CD. Abusive and/or offensive behaviour towards any member irrespective of sexual orientation, race, belief, culture, sex or nationality should not be tolerated under any circumstances.
Until a more rigid policy is implemented here numbers will continue to dwindle until there are only the undesirables left.
You are clearly unaware of the large number of chatters we as Admins have banned for life over the years. We have a list of almost 30 people. And with all due respect, you spend a lot of your chat time mocking, goading and harassing other chatters, so maybe look at your own chat behaviour, because if we decided to get even tougher, as you seem to be asking, I'm afraid you are one that would likely be receiving a lifetime ban too. People in glass houses, etc etc.
 

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You are clearly unaware of the large number of chatters we as Admins have banned for life over the years. We have a list of almost 30 people. And with all due respect, you spend a lot of your chat time mocking, goading and harassing other chatters, so maybe look at your own chat behaviour, because if we decided to get even tougher, as you seem to be asking, I'm afraid you are one that would likely be receiving a lifetime ban too. People in glass houses, etc etc.
Thank you for making my decision much easier. For the record I have only gone on the attack against those who making untoward comments or accusations. Never towards anybody else. in fact I have apologised directly to the room if there was an outburst. There is obviously no room to be able to give the undesirables a taste of their own medicine in order to stop them picking on others ,so it is pointless for one to continue to butt one’s head against a brick wall.
I will not be returning to chat for the foreseeable future , if at all. I will decide whether to delete my account or not after a cooling off period.
 

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Thank you for making my decision much easier. For the record I have only gone on the attack against those who making untoward comments or accusations. Never towards anybody else. in fact I have apologised directly to the room if there was an outburst. There is obviously no room to be able to give the undesirables a taste of their own medicine in order to stop them picking on others ,so it is pointless for one to continue to butt one’s head against a brick wall.
I will not be returning to chat for the foreseeable future , if at all. I will decide whether to delete my account or not after a cooling off period.
Just cause you claim to say you were once a mod you disregard your own behaviour, it clearly shows you think its one rule for you a different one for others, and you a liar, you have many times starting tabbing me with abusive digs when I have not even spoken to you and where you are making the first approach when I have not even spoken to you until you have started taking unprovoked attacks and digs where you really do feed off trying to create a little circus of your own to create problems. You are not special, and creating your pity parties crying doesn't make your actions any more tolerable.
 

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Wonder why auld elwood didnt get a ban when he posted pics clearly showing female gentiles...and then argue with it and laugh at basildon bond? Biggest contradictive hypocrite "running" the site.
Oh n eres ben to continue his "goading" lmfao
 

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Wonder why auld elwood didnt get a ban when he posted pics clearly showing female gentiles...and then argue with it and laugh at basildon bond? Biggest contradictive hypocrite "running" the site.
Oh n eres ben to continue his "goading" lmfao
 

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Sports don't disregard your own vile diagusting behaviour hypocritte or do you think it's acceptable for you to be that way like GOD.. You are not special with special privileges to be a total piece of sh** towards others with your goading and harassment behaviour so take a good lomg look at your self if you can afford to buy a mirror and look in it properly.
 

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Wonder why auld elwood didnt get a ban when he posted pics clearly showing female gentiles...and then argue with it and laugh at basildon bond? Biggest contradictive hypocrite "running" the site.
Oh n eres ben to continue his "goading" lmfao

Oh wow
 

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A tad ironic coming from a chatter who I've witnessed ridicule CDFiona.

Like all of us, you are just as guilty of hypocrisy.
May I correct you on that comment. When a chatter greets every new woman with “hi, pm?” And shows ridiculous selfies. That is an insult to women and real CDs. Who take pride in their appearance. Have I or other genuine CDs or trans engaged in that sort of behaviour?…….NO. Never.
I like many others have tried subtly to give the chatter in question improvement tips/advice. Should said chatter ignore those being genuinely helpful, then he/she unfortunately leaves the door open for ridicule. Which is a shame.
 

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Wonder why auld elwood didnt get a ban when he posted pics clearly showing female gentiles...and then argue with it and laugh at basildon bond? Biggest contradictive hypocrite "running" the site.
Oh n eres ben to continue his "goading" lmfao
That was explained and dealt with last year as you well know. It was to point out what is and is not allowed. And being an ex-mod, you should know that posting nudity does not lead to an automatic ban. A kill with a warning to go to ukchat.co.uk is the first response. And all of this, just because you got a warning about harassment two weeks ago. Auld Sporkz should brush that massive chip off his shoulder.
 

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May I correct you on that comment. When a chatter greets every new woman with “hi, pm?” And shows ridiculous selfies.
They don't think they're "ridiculous"
That is an insult to women and real CDs.
Real CD's? As opposed to what?
Who take pride in their appearance.
Ever thought they might?
Have I or other genuine CDs or trans engaged in that sort of behaviour?…….NO. Never.
Actually, yes. I've had pm's from a TG woman who was needier and more persistent than the men here, and that's saying something
I like many others have tried subtly to give the chatter in question improvement tips/advice.
Lol.... oh, how generous of you
Should said chatter ignore those being genuinely helpful, then he/she unfortunately leaves the door open for ridicule.
Why do they though?
Why not just use block?
Which is a shame.

Some chatters just thrive on the drama rather than block.
 

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May I correct you on that comment. When a chatter greets every new woman with “hi, pm?” And shows ridiculous selfies. That is an insult to women and real CDs. Who take pride in their appearance. Have I or other genuine CDs or trans engaged in that sort of behaviour?…….NO. Never.
I like many others have tried subtly to give the chatter in question improvement tips/advice. Should said chatter ignore those being genuinely helpful, then he/she unfortunately leaves the door open for ridicule. Which is a shame.
The chatter in question may not want to chat in open room. As for dress sense each to their own. Ur entitled to ur opinion but don't need to rub it and "ridicule".
 

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That was explained and dealt with last year as you well know. It was to point out what is and is not allowed. And being an ex-mod, you should know that posting nudity does not lead to an automatic ban. A kill with a warning to go to ukchat.co.uk is the first response. And all of this, just because you got a warning about harassment two weeks ago. Auld Sporkz should brush that massive chip off his shoulder.

To show whats allowed n whats not LOL. What ya lyin for? This isnt cos i got banned a while back you daft fat bap and ya certainly didnt give any warnin. Infact Ive never recieved ANY warning n wasnt your words "youre past any warnings" when you kicked me for askin ben a question about a pic he posted ,then I received a barrage of profanities and abuse?
Harassment lmfao. Im sure it was similar shituation to CDhannahs where I jus finally popped n reacted to a certain waster.
I also discreetly asked you and teapot THREE FKiN TIMES for you to delete my account prior to you bannin me. That ban coulda been avoided but what did ya do....ignore my request n allow me to continue to react to the actual harassment.
 
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