Death of a parent

[Jocklander]

Nothing can prepare you for that.

Best wishes to anyone who has suffered this blow recently and to anyone still struggling to overcome and manage the grief.

 

[Loobyloo67]

my mum has late stage frontal lobe dementia, sadly to me she died years ago as there is nothing left thats her. I feel that when the body finally dies I'll be relieved actually but have to mourn her all over again ...dementia is s**t.

 

[Dropship]

When my mam died aged 76 in 1997 I went numb and shed no tears or nothing, just total punch-drunk numbness for a couple of weeks.
My attitude was "Well she ain't never coming back and there's nothing I can do about it", and that 'take-it-on-the-chin' attitude helped me come to terms with it..
Funny thing is that when my dad died some years before that, I never batted an eye, no numbness at all, I suppose that's because me and him never got on and it was a relief that his miserable sour-faced nagging was finally stopped..

 

[Dropship]

my mum has late stage frontal lobe dementia, sadly to me she died years ago as there is nothing left thats her. I feel that when the body finally dies I'll be relieved actually but have to mourn her all over again ...dementia is s**t.

Me mam went almost braindead when she was 76 and had all the symptoms of dementia, I remember looking at her in her armchair like a living corpse and thinking "Her heart's beating and she's breathing but she's as good as dead".
We got her into hospital and they found her thyroid had packed up and she went into a coma. The young doctor took me aside and said "We can keep her alive for years but she'll just be a vegetable, do you want that?", and I replied "No, I think it'd be best if you stopped the medication and let her just slip peacefully away".
He agreed and she died a couple of days later.
I regarded it as setting her soul free from the prison of a clapped-out useless body.
Jesus said-"The flesh alone is of no importance, it is the spirit that is the life" (John 6:63)
If I ever end up a vegetable I hope there'll be a similar doctor enlightened enough to switch me off..

 

[Loobyloo67]

my mums dementia is the type that is passed on, so I have the added 'fun' of everything shes becoming thinking is this going to happen to me. They have offered me genetic testing and counselling but I have refused as I dont want to know before she dies cos I think i will hate her for sentencing me to the same fate as Im watching. I think I'll be taking a 1 way trip to switzerland when the time comes Im not ending up like she has.
When we used to visit my grandad she used to come out and look me in the eyes and say if I ever get like that get a gun and shoot me.... I know she wouldnt want to be living how she has been for the last 3 yrs, we often used to have the conversation about ; if it was a dog you'd have it put down' so I have the guilt as well knowing she'd hate me for allowing this to happen to her. But theres nothing, its a sinister and insidious way of dying, cruel for the people watching more than the person.

 

[Dropship]

Speaking of Alzheimers, scientists quite a while ago found a link to aluminium pots and pans, apparently microscopic flecks of aluminium were found in the brains of victims, but it seems to have been hushed up by the government to protect the aluminium industry, but that was enough evidence to make me permanently switch to teflon-coated cookware..



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[Loobyloo67]

drinking out of cans also depletes your magnesium, which is the 5th most common element in nature I think i read somewhere. it plays a huge part in the human body although there are various different types of magnesium. But mostly it assists your body with nervous system and lots of neuro functions. Also a big thing is that without magnesium and calcium your body can not process vitamin D which is a biggy, and made more public aware in the last few yrs, in the fact it can lead to depression and immune system issues. I stopped drinking out of cans about 10 yrs ago but i also stopped all aspartame as well as over dosing on that ( which has been proven carcinogenic, and banned in many other countries ) can give you severe symptoms that have even been mistaken by specialists as being MS. The body is a finely balanced orchestra and it only takes a little too much or not enough of something and the whole symphony goes to pieces

 

[PennyDreadful2]

I wish the OP had not deleted their account, this is such an important topic.

 

[Moriarty]

I lost my dad a while ago.
Now I still talk to him.
Not like that, as in he's in my head.

We used to talk to each other a lot when he was going through chemo, we used to ring each other with jokes to tell.
So now when I see a funny joke or meme, I pick up the phone and talk to him, just like I did back in the day.
I know he isnt there, but to me I figure he is looking down laughing at my stupidity.

So we both have a laugh, or if there is no afterlife, It gives me something to remember and keep alive the memories we did share

 

[bellofthedesert]

My MIL (mother in law) passed away on Sunday last. She and I had a very good relationship and had become close. I will (and do right now) truly miss her. We all cope in our own ways, but for me it's easier when they've lived a full life.

 

[Dropship]

..The body is a finely balanced orchestra and it only takes a little too much or not enough of something and the whole symphony goes to pieces..

Yeah, food fads come and go, the 'experts' reckon sugar is bad for us, but surely the body needs sugar?

 

[A_Son_of_God]

My father died at 54 from lung cancer and Hodgkin's lymphoma. I was asked to go to the hospital at the time, because he was dying, but at the same time, my daughter had been assaulted, so I was heading interstate to pick her up. His last words to me were, "See you somewhere, I guess", which was sad in a way, showing he wasn't 100% certain of his faith, yet also demonstrated he had the built in recognition of being somewhere else in the future. I look forward to seeing him in the resurrection.

My mother died from strokes from diabetes. I tried to care for her by installing a dietary and exercise regime, but my stepfather was severely mentally ill, and nasty. He has attempted to attack me since I was a child, but I smacked him on the chops earlier on after his first attempt at assaulting me, and he felt what it was like to fly for the first time. Thanks to my dear friend's dad who introduced me to martial arts as a kid.

He booted me out. Actually, as he had done ever since coming on the scene and not being able to physically better me, he called the police for the millionth time, and used the police to remove me for no reason from the home. That was the day I started mourning my Mum's death. I knew she was going to die from then. She died about a year later.

The stepfather died a few months ago.

I look forward to seeing all of them in the resurrection, if I make it myself. My stepfather won't be mentally ill, my mother won't have diabetes, nor any damage from strokes, and my father won't have any cancer. Who knows. I may even see them without having to die myself, as it is the end of the system. But even if I do, I'll also look forward to the resurrection.

This weekend, many folks celebrate Easter, which the churches adopted into their belief systems and shaped around the death of Jesus, into a mix-match of beliefs. But regardless, thanks to Jesus and his sacrifice, the hope of life after death is a reality for those who want it. I thank God every day for a hope like this, and I feel sorry for those who don't realise it as a reality.

Here is a video about it.

https://www.jw.org/en/library/videos/Good-News-From-God-Video-Series/video-why-did-jesus-die/

And a short article.

https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/questions/jesus-saves/