Why do people get divorced?

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Personally I never married because I never wanted to be a family man with kids, I'd have felt trapped.
So what happens to make couples divorce, and whose fault is it, the man or womans?
For example the 35-ish bloke in our local pet shop is one of the nicest friendliest blokes in the world and I was chatting to him and asked if he was married.
"Not any more" he replied, "she turned evil so we divorced".

 

[LadyOnArooftop]

Sometimes, people just grow apart... I'll tell you one thing though, and speaking for myself, you never stop loving your first love - no matter what they did. Any love following that first love just isn't quite the same.

 

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..you never stop loving your first love..

When I was a young teen my first love was a girl down the street and it took me months to get up the nerve to ask her for a date, but she replied "F*ck off and kill yerself you ugly b*stard!"
My mate consoled me by saying "Don't worry, she probably fancies you but is too shy to admit it, so just wait a while and she'll come asking YOU for a date".
60 years later I'm still waiting..

 

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Amazingly, many celebs have been married and divorced multiple times, for example evolutionist Richard Dawkins has had 3 wives.
It probably went like this each time-
WIFE- "Oh Dicky darling talk sexy to me"
DAWKINS- "Sperm cells form during the process known as spermatogenesis, which in amniotes (reptiles and mammals) takes place in the seminiferous tubules of the testes. This process involves the production of several successive sperm cell precursors, starting with spermatogonia, which differentiate into spermatocytes..."
WIFE- "OH SHUT THE F*CK UP !"

 

[MissLove]

People divorce because they marry and then life happens. They grow apart, or sometimes they change and their partners don't like the way they change, or perhaps they refuse to change and their partners expected them to. So many couples, so many reasons.

I never married, but I have been in a longterm relationship that turned bad b/c he was a workaholic and I felt like "a single mother in a relationship", doing a fulltime job, everything needed for the kids and (a bad job at) the whole household too. At some point, when you're too unhappy, you give yourself permission to end the relationship and let your own happiness weigh in too. Since covid lockdown, he has become more of a family man, but the "us as a couple" never returned.

 

[A_Son_of_God]

One of the main reasons why people divorce is the lack of importance many put on the marriage itself. Today's society is a throwaway one to start with, but people also mock the idea of sacredness. Marriage is supposed to be a sacred union, but nowadays, if people could, they'd be marrying anything, even as a joke. Just look at these sleazy shows like "Married at First Sight", where not only are they there as a joke, but are tempted to betray the sanctity of marriage even within the show.

Contrary to this, marriage was a sacred union, introduced by God in the Garden of Eden. God went bringing Eve to Adam. It was a ceremony, and was to be for life - of which they had the hope of living forever.

Jesus states that there is only one ground for divorcing, which is sexual immorality on the part of one of the members. The innocent mate is free to divorce if they want. They don't have to of course, and may forgive the offending partner. But anyway, that is what marriage should be. Two becoming one.

People say it's all airy fairy, but it isn't. That's what they wish to do with it, and they're entitled to it, but the arrangement was a clever arrangement, meant to safeguard the family. Nowadays though, we all know better don't we. We're all too clever to view something as sacred, and instead have to mar it by smearing faeces all over it, like the world does with everything else.

 

[Zo_So]

Why do people get married ?

 

[A_Son_of_God]

Why do people get married ?

Because, for some, life just doesn't have enough troubles for them individually, so they make it a team effort.

 

[Poco_Loco]

So you meet someone you want to spend your life with ,

Then you decide to get married because its the " done thing "

The relationship starts off on a bad footing as you both toddle off to Church to bullshit the Vicar.

He or She then gives you a set of instructions to do things you wouldn't normally do and replies to your bullshit with some of his own.

Marriage was never for me.

Trust and Love is for me.

 

[baggy_trousers]

People do grow apart a lot even spend more time at work with work colleagues and somme just need a little bit of space to read a book in peace, instead of being followed around

 

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People divorce because they marry and then life happens. They grow apart, or sometimes they change and their partners don't like the way they change, or perhaps they refuse to change and their partners expected them to...

Years ago my sister married a nice friendly hardworking bloke even though he was a boozer, smoker and gambler but after about 3 years marriage and a baby daughter, she decided to change him, but he refused pointblank saying "You knew what I was like when you married me, so why should I change?", and he had a point..
The marriage went downhill from then on and she eventually divorced him 17 years later.

 

[fonzie]

best to get married in secret location then you can't find each other problem solved

 

[deafsilentfem]

well if even the uk king can be a break so called bible rules but its peresuure for the norm to get divorced

 

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A few years ago a Brit newspaper invited readers who'd had very short marriages to write in, and one bloke said-
"I married my wife after a whirlwind romance even though I knew she had a bit of a drink problem.
As we sat sipping wine on the verandah of our honeymoon hotel she suddenly blurted out 'Why do you hate my mother?'.
Flabbergasted I told her I hadn't even met her mother yet and had never said a word about her.
But my wife continued with 'You've never liked her.....She's never done anything to you....I love my mum even if you don't' and she began getting more and more uptight and her voice shriller and shriller, screaming at me things like 'Admit it, you want to kill my mother....I'll do anything to protect her...you'd better watch yourself' etc etc.
So without a word i slipped into our hotel room, packed my bag and got a taxi to the airport, and the first thing i did when i got home was to file for divorce with a solicitor"

 

[RequiemForACat]

From listening to married friends of mine, there seems to be one massive thing a lot of people forget - the internet.

Everything is so accessible now for everyone, you can meet all manner of people all over the country and the world, download a dating app and bam, TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Discord, Chat sites, a lot of apps now can be easily hidden, messages with others hidden easily with various forms of face ID and notification hiders. Years ago you wouldn't give Keith or Kelly from finance your phone number to contact you outside of work, but now thats seen as the norm, and inevitably close friendships form which result in affairs etc. Face it marriage is boring for most people now, and honestly my married friends are all unhappy because their partners are DM'ing other women/men and exes, liking scantily clad pics and commenting on how hot they are, laying in bed texting Kelly from finance - but its ok, they're just friends. Porn is also a bit to blame too, death grip is a real thing so sex life suffers. You have kids and there is no "village" to help bring them up anymore so your relationship suffers. Basically all that and the pressure of real life now compared to years ago and it all adds up to divorce!

Most people don't want a monogomus marriage where they work hard together through all the rough parts of life to keep up a good relationship now, and that, is why I'm single lol.

 

[fonzie]

From listening to married friends of mine, there seems to be one massive thing a lot of people forget - the internet.

Everything is so accessible now for everyone, you can meet all manner of people all over the country and the world, download a dating app and bam, TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Discord, Chat sites, a lot of apps now can be easily hidden, messages with others hidden easily with various forms of face ID and notification hiders. Years ago you wouldn't give Keith or Kelly from finance your phone number to contact you outside of work, but now thats seen as the norm, and inevitably close friendships form which result in affairs etc. Face it marriage is boring for most people now, and honestly my married friends are all unhappy because their partners are DM'ing other women/men and exes, liking scantily clad pics and commenting on how hot they are, laying in bed texting Kelly from finance - but its ok, they're just friends. Porn is also a bit to blame too, death grip is a real thing so sex life suffers. You have kids and there is no "village" to help bring them up anymore so your relationship suffers. Basically all that and the pressure of real life now compared to years ago and it all adds up to divorce!

Most people don't want a monogomus marriage where they work hard together through all the rough parts of life to keep up a good relationship now, and that, is why I'm single lol.

a good relationship is passing ships in the night less you see of each other the better

 

[fonzie]

From listening to married friends of mine, there seems to be one massive thing a lot of people forget - the internet.

Everything is so accessible now for everyone, you can meet all manner of people all over the country and the world, download a dating app and bam, TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Discord, Chat sites, a lot of apps now can be easily hidden, messages with others hidden easily with various forms of face ID and notification hiders. Years ago you wouldn't give Keith or Kelly from finance your phone number to contact you outside of work, but now thats seen as the norm, and inevitably close friendships form which result in affairs etc. Face it marriage is boring for most people now, and honestly my married friends are all unhappy because their partners are DM'ing other women/men and exes, liking scantily clad pics and commenting on how hot they are, laying in bed texting Kelly from finance - but its ok, they're just friends. Porn is also a bit to blame too, death grip is a real thing so sex life suffers. You have kids and there is no "village" to help bring them up anymore so your relationship suffers. Basically all that and the pressure of real life now compared to years ago and it all adds up to divorce!

Most people don't want a monogomus marriage where they work hard together through all the rough parts of life to keep up a good relationship now, and that, is why I'm single lol.

your lucky being single relationships comes with many problems and it's not all sweetness and roses it's more like steptoe and son

 

[RequiemForACat]

your lucky being single relationships comes with many problems and it's not all sweetness and roses it's more like steptoe and son

Ruined my dreams of a fairytale real life did

 

[fonzie]

A few years ago a Brit newspaper invited readers who'd had very short marriages to write in, and one bloke said-
"I married my wife after a whirlwind romance even though I knew she had a bit of a drink problem.
As we sat sipping wine on the verandah of our honeymoon hotel she suddenly blurted out 'Why do you hate my mother?'.
Flabbergasted I told her I hadn't even met her mother yet and had never said a word about her.
But my wife continued with 'You've never liked her.....She's never done anything to you....I love my mum even if you don't' and she began getting more and more uptight and her voice shriller and shriller, screaming at me things like 'Admit it, you want to kill my mother....I'll do anything to protect her...you'd better watch yourself' etc etc.
So without a word i slipped into our hotel room, packed my bag and got a taxi to the airport, and the first thing i did when i got home was to file for divorce with a solicitor"

they get divorced as they marry loons like you who has nothing better to do than type utter garbage you fool wise up

 

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Before and after marriage pics..-