Still somewhat guilty.

[Amyf40]

My husband and I have 2 girls, both are very bright for their age.

Since they were 7 they have been in a private school together. They are on scholarships/bursaries and sports development programmes.

Although I have got used to the idea I still to some degree feel guilty that I'm taking the places of more suitable students. I sometimes feel like one day that I'm going to be told that the girls need to leave.

How can I get rid of these feelings, my husband does know about my fears, and reassures me.

Does anyone have any ideas?.

 

[LadyOnArooftop]

Just be glad you got your children into a good school, there's no guilt attached. I got my child into an exclusive Church of England High school, did she take the place of a more deserving Christian? quite possibly, but like I care.

 

[Amyf40]

I am very happy that they are in a private school as they are being challenged educationally.

Since an early age they have been good swimmers, again better than those of the same age. They have both become part of the schools swimming teams. The sports development programmes are helping them improve, again if they were in a public school they wouldn't be getting the support.

 

[Kev45]

If the two girls were awarded a scholarship and with a bursary to top up the fees, then quite clearly the school itself recognized their potential. I assume that your feelings of guilt are based on love and concern for your children. It’s perfectly normal to want the best for them and to worry about any potential setbacks. Try being kinder to yourself and remind yourself that your love and support will help them achieve the best possible outcome.

 

[Amyf40]

Thank you for your kind words.

I must try to remember that they are in the best place and try to put my concerns to the back of my mind.

 

[Not_Fred_Honest]

Never be ashamed of your children's success, you have no reason to be. It's not your success.
My sister got a scholarships at good public school. Her was for music, she play the flute. She worked hard to get it too... going thru interviews and exams.

She never touch a flute since she left that school, it was just a means to an end.

The only time my Dad got involved was when they offer her a full time boarding scholarships. He stop that dead in the water cos he didn't trust the staff at the school. Too many kiddy fidders around back then.

 

[Amyf40]

Never be ashamed of your children's success, you have no reason to be. It's not your success.
My sister got a scholarships at good public school. Her was for music, she play the flute. She worked hard to get it too... going thru interviews and exams.

She never touch a flute since she left that school, it was just a means to an end.

The only time my Dad got involved was when they offer her a full time boarding scholarships. He stop that dead in the water cos he didn't trust the staff at the school. Too many kiddy fidders around back then.

I'm not ashamed, but I do feel like I'm cheating somehow.

The girls will DEFINITELY not be boarding full time when they are older. As you say too many pervs around.