HappyNutz
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Jimmy Carr once said 'If laughter is the best medicine, then we should all spend more time laughing at disabled people.'
Now I know his jokes are dark, but a lot of people like that sort of humour. He does always make it clear at the start of his gigs that he's there as a performer and to entertain people only, and he doesn't mean any offence by the things he says - they are just jokes (I will add that the last time I saw him live there were several visually disabled people in the audience and none of them seemed to mind this joke).
Love it or hate it, I kind of think he has a point - kind of...
You see I'm not disabled, but I have been suffering with some pretty nasty mental health issues recently. Its not fun and I'm not saying it shouldn't be taken seriously - from a medical and treatment standpoint it absolutely should - but at the same time I think there could potentially be some sort of middle ground established. You see, one of the biggest problems I have at the moment is the stigma I'm facing (be it a real one or an imagined one), where I feel like I'm a complete lepper or something just because my brain doesn't do what its supposed to. I'm worried about the stigma associated with mental health issues is going to affect my whole life - family, friends, career prospects, blah blah. Its a crushing fear that is only adding to my problems and, with the general consensus being that my life will never be the same again unless I find the right medications, treatments, behavioural therapies etc, it makes getting by each day that much more harrowing and difficult. There's so much pressure on being 'normal' I can scarcely stand it. It makes a difficult situation unbearable.
My life at the moment is a humourless pit of scorched earth and I desperately need that to change. Being a Brit, my natural reaction was to mock myself for suffering with my condition, however that drew a massive amount of criticism and ultimately another unfathomable amount of stress (I could have lost my job over it - but luckily was shown some leniency).
All I want is to not feel like I'm not too broken, that there is still hope, and maybe laugh once in a while again. If someone slips over drunk and breaks their leg, they are allowed to insult themselves over their own foolishness as much as they want. Why can't I do the same? You see, if I could make fun out of my condition, then maybe it wouldn't feel as serious and life destroying. Maybe if I didn't have to treat my own mental battle like a personal WW3 then there would be less pressure on 'returning to normality'. Perhaps, just perhaps, this would prevent the inevitable mood spirals whenever I experience a setback, or a medication doesn't have the desired result. Maybe I'd be able to set myself right that little bit quicker?
I'm not saying people should openly mock anyone who isn't normal, but if an individual chooses to make light of their own circumstances as a way to ease their pain then why should that be considered a cancellable offence? And if their friends, family and colleagues want to join in, then why stop them? Why make people feel worse when they so desperately need to feel better?
Now I know his jokes are dark, but a lot of people like that sort of humour. He does always make it clear at the start of his gigs that he's there as a performer and to entertain people only, and he doesn't mean any offence by the things he says - they are just jokes (I will add that the last time I saw him live there were several visually disabled people in the audience and none of them seemed to mind this joke).
Love it or hate it, I kind of think he has a point - kind of...
You see I'm not disabled, but I have been suffering with some pretty nasty mental health issues recently. Its not fun and I'm not saying it shouldn't be taken seriously - from a medical and treatment standpoint it absolutely should - but at the same time I think there could potentially be some sort of middle ground established. You see, one of the biggest problems I have at the moment is the stigma I'm facing (be it a real one or an imagined one), where I feel like I'm a complete lepper or something just because my brain doesn't do what its supposed to. I'm worried about the stigma associated with mental health issues is going to affect my whole life - family, friends, career prospects, blah blah. Its a crushing fear that is only adding to my problems and, with the general consensus being that my life will never be the same again unless I find the right medications, treatments, behavioural therapies etc, it makes getting by each day that much more harrowing and difficult. There's so much pressure on being 'normal' I can scarcely stand it. It makes a difficult situation unbearable.
My life at the moment is a humourless pit of scorched earth and I desperately need that to change. Being a Brit, my natural reaction was to mock myself for suffering with my condition, however that drew a massive amount of criticism and ultimately another unfathomable amount of stress (I could have lost my job over it - but luckily was shown some leniency).
All I want is to not feel like I'm not too broken, that there is still hope, and maybe laugh once in a while again. If someone slips over drunk and breaks their leg, they are allowed to insult themselves over their own foolishness as much as they want. Why can't I do the same? You see, if I could make fun out of my condition, then maybe it wouldn't feel as serious and life destroying. Maybe if I didn't have to treat my own mental battle like a personal WW3 then there would be less pressure on 'returning to normality'. Perhaps, just perhaps, this would prevent the inevitable mood spirals whenever I experience a setback, or a medication doesn't have the desired result. Maybe I'd be able to set myself right that little bit quicker?
I'm not saying people should openly mock anyone who isn't normal, but if an individual chooses to make light of their own circumstances as a way to ease their pain then why should that be considered a cancellable offence? And if their friends, family and colleagues want to join in, then why stop them? Why make people feel worse when they so desperately need to feel better?