Confused_Fred
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I think this is one of those subjects that so controversial these days. The only idea that the state provides quality child care for children so parents can go to work is a new idea in the UK.
When I was a child the idea of state-funded childcare was non-existent and it wasn't that long ago. Instead family members looked after children. Your grandmother or your aunties would take care of you if your mum needed to go out. I remember the batty old lady who seemed really old at the time, but couldn't have been more than 40 looking after me too. It was how things were done.
When I had my own children my wife never started work until the children reached the age of 9 even 10 when I think about it.
Often I would come home find family members in the house. It was normal. My sister or my mum or her sister or somebody's wife would we were related too. No one live that far apart.
So what's changed in the last 30 years?
Well let's start off with families. No one lives close to their family anymore. I don't think I've got family within 20 miles at this place now.
The idea that women worked full-time. You can't believe how new this is. When I was still an apprentice, I remember having a conversation with one of the older guys. He went nuts at the idea of his wife working full time. He saw it as a sign of poverty and an attack on his masculinity. My wife don't work !!!
I know women whose partners left who spent the whole life looking after their children. 20 years or more living on welfare.
Now let's look at aspirations in the last 20 years. The idea that you can buy your own home and have your own career as a woman is also new. You can have it all without a man !!!
I think about where all these new ideas are coming from. The only place I can think of his Parliament . Women MPs vote through things that will benefit their own lives and careers. They're the ones demanding childcare places and tax breaks for families with children.
I also have to think about what's changed socially in the last 20 years. People do not live in communities anymore. There's no close family around to support or step in when needed. Your mum not two doors down anymore, she just can't pop round and five minutes.
Government policy these days is if a parent leaves the family unit that person pays child support. I've never seen this work out yet. When I think about my own sister after her husband left after 10 years, he never had to pay it once. He worked self-employed as a photographer and claimed that he never made enough and the government let him get away with it. It's still annoys me to this day.
So now we're in a situation where the government is expected to subsidize childcare places if we want parents that continue working. The ever-increasing cost of child care is putting most people off returning to work. Taxpayers are expected to step in and cover the costs of a family breakdown. It's the nanny state !!!
Society is expected to cover the costs of people's aspirations. There's no evidence to say the children from families with working mothers do better at school. It's the opposite. There was a big conversation back in the 80s about latch key kids going off the rails and getting into trouble. Today we have gangs of children terrorizing neighborhoods under the age of 14. So it looks like the people who said mothers working full time was a bad idea back in the 80s were right. Children without full-time supervision only get into trouble.
Who's the blame for all of this?
I blame the parents who don't want to live close to their own families.
I blame the grandparents there were too busy with their own lives to care about their own grandchildren.
I blame a liberal state that sold a dream that you can have a career and family has a woman.
it's about time we got back to basics and doing what worked for our grandparents parents generation.
Not only does the state have to provide healthcare and education, now they're expected to look after children too so parents can get on with their own lives. Unless you're earning over 8 thousand each month the state loses out. You will never pay enough tax to justify the cost and expense. It means the rest of us are paying for your lifestyle and choices.
Parents can't complain about poor healthcare or schools in the UK because they're taking all the money out the system. No parent right now can claim they're paying their fair share of the tax burden. The few hundred pounds they pay each month doesn't even come close to what they're taking out.
Instead now we have a generation who are demanding thousands of pounds in handouts from the taxpayer for child care and if we don't do it they won't work. You can only call that blackmail. We now have a generation who believe that if they cry and argue enough they will get what they want, this needs to end
Well my answer to this is simple. I won't be blackmailed into backing any legislation that increases child care support costs. Stay home with your kids it's cheaper for me as a tax payer. Live within your means like your grandparents did !!
I cant think of anything worse than a spoiled child other than a spoiled adult.
When I was a child the idea of state-funded childcare was non-existent and it wasn't that long ago. Instead family members looked after children. Your grandmother or your aunties would take care of you if your mum needed to go out. I remember the batty old lady who seemed really old at the time, but couldn't have been more than 40 looking after me too. It was how things were done.
When I had my own children my wife never started work until the children reached the age of 9 even 10 when I think about it.
Often I would come home find family members in the house. It was normal. My sister or my mum or her sister or somebody's wife would we were related too. No one live that far apart.
So what's changed in the last 30 years?
Well let's start off with families. No one lives close to their family anymore. I don't think I've got family within 20 miles at this place now.
The idea that women worked full-time. You can't believe how new this is. When I was still an apprentice, I remember having a conversation with one of the older guys. He went nuts at the idea of his wife working full time. He saw it as a sign of poverty and an attack on his masculinity. My wife don't work !!!
I know women whose partners left who spent the whole life looking after their children. 20 years or more living on welfare.
Now let's look at aspirations in the last 20 years. The idea that you can buy your own home and have your own career as a woman is also new. You can have it all without a man !!!
I think about where all these new ideas are coming from. The only place I can think of his Parliament . Women MPs vote through things that will benefit their own lives and careers. They're the ones demanding childcare places and tax breaks for families with children.
I also have to think about what's changed socially in the last 20 years. People do not live in communities anymore. There's no close family around to support or step in when needed. Your mum not two doors down anymore, she just can't pop round and five minutes.
Government policy these days is if a parent leaves the family unit that person pays child support. I've never seen this work out yet. When I think about my own sister after her husband left after 10 years, he never had to pay it once. He worked self-employed as a photographer and claimed that he never made enough and the government let him get away with it. It's still annoys me to this day.
So now we're in a situation where the government is expected to subsidize childcare places if we want parents that continue working. The ever-increasing cost of child care is putting most people off returning to work. Taxpayers are expected to step in and cover the costs of a family breakdown. It's the nanny state !!!
Society is expected to cover the costs of people's aspirations. There's no evidence to say the children from families with working mothers do better at school. It's the opposite. There was a big conversation back in the 80s about latch key kids going off the rails and getting into trouble. Today we have gangs of children terrorizing neighborhoods under the age of 14. So it looks like the people who said mothers working full time was a bad idea back in the 80s were right. Children without full-time supervision only get into trouble.
Who's the blame for all of this?
I blame the parents who don't want to live close to their own families.
I blame the grandparents there were too busy with their own lives to care about their own grandchildren.
I blame a liberal state that sold a dream that you can have a career and family has a woman.
it's about time we got back to basics and doing what worked for our grandparents parents generation.
Not only does the state have to provide healthcare and education, now they're expected to look after children too so parents can get on with their own lives. Unless you're earning over 8 thousand each month the state loses out. You will never pay enough tax to justify the cost and expense. It means the rest of us are paying for your lifestyle and choices.
Parents can't complain about poor healthcare or schools in the UK because they're taking all the money out the system. No parent right now can claim they're paying their fair share of the tax burden. The few hundred pounds they pay each month doesn't even come close to what they're taking out.
Instead now we have a generation who are demanding thousands of pounds in handouts from the taxpayer for child care and if we don't do it they won't work. You can only call that blackmail. We now have a generation who believe that if they cry and argue enough they will get what they want, this needs to end
Well my answer to this is simple. I won't be blackmailed into backing any legislation that increases child care support costs. Stay home with your kids it's cheaper for me as a tax payer. Live within your means like your grandparents did !!
I cant think of anything worse than a spoiled child other than a spoiled adult.
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